Weekend read: How and when to share good news

In by no means is this an opinion piece that I feel strongly one way or another. It simply is a post I was inspired to write more for “food for thought”. Recently, I saw an interesting post on Instagram talking about “the right time to share good news”. It gave me pause because the older I get and more life experience I have, I realize that sharing news of any sort comes with a growing shift in perspective of “what about someone in the opposite position, and how might this affect them?” Embarrassingly, something that my twenty year old self didn’t always take into consideration.

Think about it. While you may be celebrating the purchase of a home, someone may have recently lost theirs. Someone celebrates getting hired at their dream company, another is let go. Someone shared envy worth pictures of their tropical vacation, while another has no time off of work or cannot afford the fare. An expectant mom shares their joy, and another struggles with fertility. While neither side of the coin is anyone’s fault or something to hide, it is important as human beings to be aware that while we celebrate, someone else is living in an opposite situation.

When I was pregnant with our first, I was elated. I could finally live out the Pinterest-like posts of announcements and monthly bump photos. I’d share my cravings and nursery progress – all of it. Never thinking twice about how it might read to someone else; or how it might make them feel. Come my second pregnancy, I started the same way. I hadn’t yet had the experience that would prevent me to otherwise. Sadly though, when we lost our son my perspective changed. When we were blessed with our rainbow baby, the elation was obviously there. However sharing its space in our hearts was a constant state of worry and anxiety. The best way to describe it was that I held my breath for nine months, everyday slowly letting only a little bit of it out at a time. Due to these circumstances and feelings, we tried to keep it as private as possible until the day she was born. It was then however that we shared our great secret with the world and were beyond grateful to be able to do so.

Sharing good news with the world is a topic growing in dialogue. This article from Psychology Today offers insight on the mental affects sharing news may have on others. If you want to read more, it’s an interesting read to check out and ponder. Additionally, a quick Google search will also conjure up others with equally as thoughtful insight on the matter.

I write all this to say that I think the answer to the question “when is the right time to share good news?” is that there is no right answer. Instead when you share, be tactful and mindful, as well as sympathetic with those who might be happy for you, but also feeing a personal level of sadness for their own situation. Good news should be shared with your loved ones and friends, it is absolutely your prerogative to share your news, when you want. I just feel that in a world where kindness and empathy need to be constantly cultivated, we also should be open to conversations and feelings that our news may bring about for others.

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Ten Amazon finds I have been loving lately: II

It has been a few months since I last shared some of my most recent purchases from Amazon. These products are ones we have been using and enjoying, and feel worth sharing in case you are in the market for something similar. All images are from Amazon.com and linked to the product listing. I hope you enjoy this curated list, and will look to make this a more routine posting in the future!

Decided to upgrade our patio umbrella with this one this year. I’m loving the black and white bold stripes and the pop it adds to our porch. The amount of shade it provides is great for staying cool on those hot summer days; and it comes with built in solar lights underneath that you can turn on and off with a small button. This umbrella is less than $80 and comes in a several different patterns and colors. The only downside (for some) is that it does not come with a stand, so you may want to purchase one to sturdy it. While ours is old from Big Lots, you can look here and here for similar ideas.
After a few casualties of pots on the railing, we needed to clean up the space and consolidate some of our smaller potted plants. This three tiered plant stand is sturdy and simple. (Parent tip though: We zip tied ours in the back where it wasn’t noticeable to the railing of our deck so that little ones would not knock it over too easily.) It is being sold for $46, but you can save an extra %5 with their online coupon.
If you follow me on Instagram you probably have learned that one of my faults is that I rarely measure anything before I buy it. This watermelon pool is no exception, although this time it was a happy mistake. The inflatable pool my girls have been using for the past few years had to be patched on the bottom, so I decided to replace their pool with this one. It is much deeper and wider than our last, but with growing children, and some adults who may also want to cool off, it offers plenty of room to splash and refresh – a great deal for $33.
We are currently in the process of designing and renovating our master bath. Since we are spending the time and effort to improve it, I figured even the plastic bottles on our counter could use an upgrade. This two pack of glass soap dispensers now houses my cleansers and looks chic on the counter. Retailing for about $14 for the pack of two, these soap pumps come in a vareity of metal finishes and have a very solid feel to them.
This face roller is one of my favorite things. You simply keep it in your freezer and can use it to help with aches and pains, headaches, migraine relief, and an easy way to get rid of a bloated feeling face in the morning. For $7.99 – it is a great, versatile item to have on hand.
This purchase is most definitely one of the most unnecessary and high maintenance purchases I have made in a long time. However as I learned a few summers ago, pregnant in the summer is another level of hot; so this chilled facial water spray is much needed – and worth carrying around on long summer days. It does sell for $20, but you can find smaller, travel sized versions at places like Nordstrom Rack if you want to try it out first.
This wet/dry bag for clothes and bathing suits is a need for us. It is machine washable and holds quite a bit of clothing. I like to keep a few on hand for the various splash days at preschool, the beach/pool, and life in general. Black and white hearts not your thing? No need to fret, it comes in a wide variety of patterns and colors. Retailing at $18.99 this is an essential item in our house.
Rash gaurds can be pricey. We have found these brands on Amazon to be just as quality as some of their more expensive counterparts. They also come in a variey of colors, to include many bright and vibrant options. As I recently learned from a friend, the brighter colors are easier to spot in open water, which is key in practicing water safety with little ones. These gaurds are also SPF 50+ and can be easily thrown in the washing machine. The brand also sells short sleeved versions, and all styles range in price from $13-16.
Similar to above, this rash guard is the brand we purchased for our youngest daughter. It too comes in a variety of bright colors, and has a small collar to ensure less sunburn on stubborn areas like LOs necks. This particular brand is slightly more pricey than the previous, retailing at $19.
These Native shoe dupes are a fantastic, more affordable option. They are great as water shoes for splash days, heading to the pool or beach, or simiply a great alternative to flip flops for LOs feet. They are even machine washable and come with a few add ons to personalize them. The are sold for $25, but you can save an extra 15% with their online coupon.
The ‘90s vibe is back in style, and I’m not mad about it. This brand comes in all sizes and colors, and what is awesome and tubular (see what I did there?) about this hat is the fact that it is reversible. It was also less than $14.
Never thought I’d be the matchy-matchy mom but here we are. My girls wanted to have matching hats, so thankfully the same company makes toddler versions in similar colors. This one was $7 and comes with the attached adjustable lanyard.