Believe it or not, October is fast approaching. While you are most likely aware that it is Breast Cancer Awareness month, did you also know that it is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness (PAIL) month? Back in 1988, President Ronald Regan designated the month of October to babies gone too soon. Movements and missions have been spurred since then, and the day of recognition was made official in 2006 by the House of Representatives.
When you are expecting a child, people always tell you about the impending unconditional, deep rooted love you will feel for your child – and they aren’t wrong. The love we feel for our children is truly indescribable, and fills your heart in places you didn’t know were empty before. It is the loss of a child (whether an hour after birth or into their adulthood) that no one tells you about. It is a club that for members, membership was forced upon us. It is a club that initiation rocks you to the core. It is a club where dues are lifelong. It is a club that we do not want others to join; not because we are exclusive, but simply because the loss of a child is deafening to the soul.
This October, I urge you to hug those you know who are members, reminding them that you are here for them no matter what. Raise awareness to others, and be a shoulder to lean on for a friend in need.